Growing up, Morenikeji* (29) adored her older brother, Ayo* (33). He was smart, responsible and constantly held up as the example to follow. 

Then, in December 2025, one conversation changed everything.

For Sunken Ships, she shares how a political disagreement shattered the respect she鈥檇 spent a lifetime building with her brother, and why he now feels like a stranger.

What was your relationship with your brother like growing up?

It was great. He鈥檚 the oldest, so my younger brother and I always looked up to him. 

He was the best of us academically, and my parents constantly used him as the standard we should aspire to. Beyond being my older brother, I genuinely liked him as a person.

What made you two so close? 

We鈥檙e similar and share a love for music, movies and the arts. There was nothing I couldn鈥檛 talk to him about. We’d discuss work, relationships, family issues and our plans for the future. If I were ever in trouble, he would be the first person I鈥檇 reach out to for help. Ayo was one of the few people whose opinion I genuinely valued. 

Did you ever disagree with him?

Of course. We fought as most siblings do, but it was never serious. 

But our most recent disagreement is the worst we鈥檝e ever had. And honestly, I don鈥檛 know if we鈥檒l recover from it.

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What happened?

We fell out over our political differences. I know it sounds strange that something like that could upturn the bond we share as siblings, but that鈥檚 just how I feel.

 I didn鈥檛 vote in the 2023 elections because I simply didn鈥檛 care.

Since then, I鈥檝e learnt my lessons. Nigeria has shown me proper shege, and I鈥檝e been forced to become more politically conscious. I鈥檝e encouraged the people around me to care, too, and I鈥檝e reached a point where most of them share my concerns and frustrations.

I鈥檇 naturally assumed my brother would follow suit. I couldn鈥檛 have been more wrong.  

What do you mean?

My biggest gripe is his support of the APC. After I developed an interest in politics, I aligned myself with a party that actually cares about effecting change. And I encouraged my family and friends to support the same party. 

But not my brother. Not only was he hell-bent on keeping his support for a party that鈥檚 gotten us to our current state, but he also took glee in defending some of the worst tribalist takes imaginable. 

Doesn’t he have the right to his own political choice, or did you at least ask his reasons?

I did. We were both home for Christmas in December 2025, so I pulled him aside to talk.

I couldn鈥檛 reconcile the brother I鈥檇 admired all my life with someone willing to support people I believe are dishonest. Then he explained himself.  He said he didn鈥檛 want to antagonise powerful people he hoped to connect with someday.

What did you think of his reason?

The explanation made absolutely no sense, and it completely changed how I saw him. I鈥檇 always held him in high regard, yet, in that moment, I realised he was willing to overlook everything the party represents as long as he benefited. 

I lost all respect for him that day.

Yikes. Did you express your disappointment, though?

In a way, I did. I tried to change his mind. I supported my argument against the party with examples of just how bad things have gotten in the country. But the more we argued, the more things escalated. 

I tagged him disappointing and greedy. He called me naive and foolish, especially for thinking my 鈥榖ig English鈥� could change reality. 

And that was when I landed the final blow. I regret my actions, but it was necessary.

What did you do?

He鈥檚 always been insecure about his financial situation. He has a job, but the economy hasn鈥檛 been kind to him, just like the rest of us. So I told him that his continued support for the party wouldn鈥檛 guarantee his success in life or make him rich. I saw the hurt spread across his face immediately. Part of me wishes I hadn鈥檛 said those words.  

Did you try to apologise?

Not in that moment, I didn鈥檛 feel the need to. But every time I replay the scenario, I wish I could cut that part out.

And how have things been since then?

We鈥檝e barely spoken. I avoid him because I don鈥檛 trust myself not to say something worse.

I even unfollowed him everywhere because seeing him defend that party online only makes me angrier. Our relationship has changed for the worse.

What does the rest of your family think of this?

They all insist I鈥檓 overreacting. My parents especially keep saying politics shouldn鈥檛 come between family. But that鈥檚 not how I see it. 

To me, this isn鈥檛 just about politics. It鈥檚 about values. I鈥檓 scared of what my brother would do if he ever had access to real power.  

Has he reached out to you since your fight?

No. And I haven鈥檛 reached out either. Right now, the distance between us is for the best.

 I don鈥檛 see a future where things return to how they used to be, unless there鈥檚 a fundamental change. I鈥檓 too disappointed by what he stands for.  

What鈥檚 the hardest part about this fight with your brother?

Missing him. Ayo isn鈥檛 just my brother; we used to be friends. I wish we were still on the same page.

From public punishments and midnight raids to political fear, executions, and soldiers enforcing order on the streets, life under military rule shaped an entire generation of Nigerians. These Nigerians share the memories they still carry decades later.

鈥淪eeing your mum beg not to be beaten is not something any child should experience鈥� 鈥� Tosin*, 49, M

One of my earliest memories of military rule is watching my mum almost get beaten because she hadn’t participated in environmental sanitation.

I can still remember how she begged. As a child, I didn’t fully understand what was happening. I just knew I was terrified. I kept calling my dad, hoping he would come and stop whatever was about to happen.

People often talk about how disciplined Nigerians were during military rule, but they don’t always discuss the fear that underpinned that discipline.

Seeing your mum beg to avoid being beaten is not something any child should experience. More than anything else, that’s what I remember from those years.

鈥淎rmed policemen threw our belongings into the street at midnight鈥� 鈥� Henry, 47, M

One of my earliest memories is being woken up in the middle of the night by armed policemen. I was about six years old.

They broke into our house and started throwing our things outside. I remember watching them empty our home onto the street while everyone around me panicked.

At that age, I didn’t understand what was happening. I just knew that my parents, the people who always seemed to have everything under control, were afraid.

As I got older, I began to connect the dots. My father was a journalist at the time.

I never got the chance to ask my parents exactly what happened that night because they died in a car crash about four years later. But that memory has stayed with me all my life. Whenever I think about military rule, that’s the first thing that comes to mind.

鈥淚 saw people being assassinated in broad daylight鈥� 鈥� Segun, 51, M

The military years were terrible. I was in my first year at university, and on my way home, I would sometimes hear about or witness the aftermath of people being assassinated in broad daylight. There was tension everywhere. The country felt unstable, as though anything could happen at any moment. Riots and protests were common, and there was a constant feeling that things could spiral out of control.

Looking back now, I have mixed feelings. Military rule was frightening, but the scale of insecurity Nigeria has experienced in recent years through insurgency and kidnappings is something I don’t think many of us imagined back then.

The fear felt different. During military rule, many people feared the government. Today, Nigerians often fear danger from many directions.

鈥淚 watched men hanging from Third Mainland Bridge on TV鈥� 鈥� Ife*, 55, F

I was only 13 or 14, but I still remember watching reports about arrests and executions on television.

One day, I saw men hanging from the Third Mainland Bridge after they were accused of plotting against the government.

As a child, I didn’t understand politics. I didn’t know who they were or what they were supposed to have done. I just remember being scared. Looking back, I don’t even know why my parents let me watch it.

The whole country felt tense. Even as a child, you could sense it. It felt as if everyone was waiting for something bad to happen.

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鈥淵ou could get flogged for jumping a queue鈥� 鈥� Edirin, 54, F

People like to say Nigerians were more disciplined during military rule, and there is some truth to that.

If there was a queue, you joined it. If you tried to jump the line or cause trouble, you could get flogged in public. Soldiers were everywhere, and no one wanted to draw their attention. But what many people overlook is that the order came out of fear.

Today, people insult presidents, governors, and politicians online. Back then, you couldn’t do that. You watched what you said and who you said it to.

There may have been more order, but there was far less freedom.

鈥淧arents could be flogged for not sending their children to school鈥� 鈥� Frank, 47, M

One of my strongest memories is of the military governors in Abia State.

There was one in particular, Governor Ike Nwosu, who had a reputation for showing up at school gates without warning to make sure children were actually attending classes.

If he found children roaming around during school hours, their parents could be punished or flogged for failing to send them to school. It sounds unbelievable now, but that was the atmosphere at the time.

Everyone was afraid of getting on the wrong side of authority. The fear wasn’t limited to adults. Children felt it too.

鈥淢y parents banned us from discussing politics outside the house鈥� 鈥� Oke*, 50, F

If you’re under 30, you probably don’t understand why some older Nigerians react so strongly whenever military rule is mentioned.

One of the moments that stayed with me was the execution of Ken Saro-Wiwa and the other Ogoni activists.

I remember how shocked everyone was. After it happened, my parents banned us from discussing anything political outside the house.

My father would even lower the television volume whenever the news came on. At the time, I didn’t understand why. I thought he was simply being cautious.

Now I understand that people were afraid. They didn’t know who was listening or what repeating the wrong thing could lead to.

That kind of fear changes how people live.

鈥淲e never imagined they would actually kill him鈥� 鈥� Lanre*, 48, M

Young Nigerians complain about the government today, but at least they can complain openly.

During military rule, people became careful about what they said and whom they said it to. You didn’t know who might report you. You didn’t know who was listening.

The moment I realised things were different was when Ken Saro-Wiwa was executed.

Most of us thought the government would lock him up forever. We thought they would silence him somehow. We never imagined they would actually kill him.

I remember the shock when the news spread. It felt as though the whole country stopped for a moment.

That was when many people realised that nobody was untouchable.

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Three years ago, many Nigerian workers weren’t exactly living large, but they could still afford the basics. Rent was manageable, transport didn’t eat up a huge chunk of their salaries, and some people could even save a little at the end of the month.

Today, many 9-to-5 workers say that’s no longer the case.

As President Tinubu marks three years in office, we asked Nigerian workers how their lives have changed since 2023. Their responses reveal a pattern of shrinking purchasing power, rising living costs, side hustles, layoffs, and everyday compromises that have quietly reshaped what it means to earn a salary in Nigeria.

1. 鈥淚 never imagined I’d have to move back in with my parents鈥� 鈥� Charles*, 29, M

As of 2021, my 鈧�250k salary was enough to sustain me comfortably because I lived alone in a self-con and had very few responsibilities. But now, everything is more expensive.

My rent increased from 鈧�400,000 per year to 鈧�850,000. I could no longer afford to live on my own. I eventually had to move back in with my parents just to survive. I never imagined I would have to take that step again.

2. 鈥淚 became a part-time Korope driver to make ends meet鈥� 鈥� Chibuzo*, 36, M

Before 2023, my salary wasn’t much, but my wife and I could manage the basics and keep the house in order. It wasn’t easy, but it worked. These days, things are much harder, so I became a part-time Korope driver to make ends meet.

My job closes around 4:30 p.m., and from there, I go straight to driving. Even though I do it to add a little to what I earn from my job, it still doesn’t solve the problem because I have to share the money with the vehicle owner at the end of the day.

3. 鈥淓very day, I’m scared I could be next鈥� 鈥� Afolabi, 27, M

When I joined this company a few years ago, I had about eight people on my team. Over the past two years, many of my colleagues have been laid off because the company says it can’t afford everyone’s salaries. Now there are only four of us left.

Every few months, somebody else leaves, and the workload keeps increasing for the rest of us. These days, I come to work with the fear that it could be my turn too one day.

4. 鈥淚’m this close to quitting my job鈥� 鈥� Mayowa*, 29, M

I started teaching at this private primary school in 2021, and back then, most classes had about 20 to 25 students. Over the last two years, I’ve watched those numbers drop drastically, mostly because many parents can no longer afford the school fees.

Now, some classes are nowhere near as full as they used to be, and it’s starting to affect how often we get paid. Honestly, I’m this close to quitting.

5. 鈥淚 miss when things were easier for everybody鈥� 鈥� Esther*, 27, F

Back in 2022, whenever I closed late and couldn’t find a bus going home, one of my co-workers would offer to take me home with him. It became a routine, and whenever I tried to contribute to fuel, he always told me not to bother.

Recently, he asked me to start paying for fuel. I’m not complaining because I know fuel is expensive and he’s doing me a favour. I just miss when things were easier for everybody.

6. 鈥淚 genuinely wonder how people are expected to survive on these salaries鈥� 鈥� Priscilla, 31, F

I worked in my previous field for about three years before deciding to switch careers. The year I got a new job was the same year Tinubu came into power, and job hunting since then has been exhausting.

Most of the openings I see now offer between 鈧�150,000 and 鈧�200,000. It honestly feels discouraging, considering my experience level and how expensive everything has become. Sometimes I look at these salaries and genuinely wonder how people are expected to survive on them.

7. 鈥淚 was shocked by how much our hampers changed鈥� 鈥� Mariam*, 46, F

I’ve been working at the same company for years, and before 2023, our end-of-year hampers were always full. Because of my position, I would get things like a 25kg bag of rice, power banks, biscuits, chocolates, and other gifts. But ever since December 2024, it has just kept reducing.

Last December, there was no rice and no gadgets. We were only given a small box of biscuits and chocolates. I was genuinely shocked.

8. 鈥淢y transport fare quadrupled鈥� 鈥� Kemi*, 26, F

Before 2023, my transport to and from work was 鈧�500. The day after the fuel subsidy removal announcement, my transport to work alone became 鈧�500.

Today, I spend about 鈧�2,000 just getting to work, and that’s not even counting the journey back home. It still doesn’t make sense to me.

9. 鈥淲orking from home didn’t save me money after all鈥� 鈥� Precious*, 29, F

After Tinubu came into power, my transport fare increased from 鈧�400 to 鈧�1,400. To help workers cope, my company switched to a hybrid schedule. I honestly thought it would help me save money. Instead, electricity became more expensive. Data became more expensive, too. I’ve spent so much money trying to keep my home workspace running that sometimes it feels like whether I stay at home or go to the office, I’m still spending money I can’t afford to lose.

10. 鈥淲e had to sell our car to take care of our family鈥� 鈥� Eniola*, 36, F

My husband and I used to go to work together every day because our offices were close to each other. He would drop me off in the morning and pick me up after work. It worked well for years.

But recently, things became too expensive, especially the cost of maintaining the car. We eventually had to sell it so we could focus on caring for our children and keeping the family afloat. Now we spend almost twice as much on transport every day.

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At the 12th edition of the AMVCA, one brand understood that cultural significance perfectly,Don Julio.

As headline sponsor of this year鈥檚 ceremony, Don Julio brought its philosophy of devotion, craftsmanship and earned celebration into the heart of one of the continent鈥檚 biggest entertainment moments. But rather than simply showing up as a sponsor, the brand created an experience that felt intentional, immersive, and deeply connected to the spirit of the night.

At the centre of Don Julio鈥檚 AMVCA presence was The Don鈥檚 Table  a symbolic and curated space designed to honour individuals whose commitment to their craft has earned them defining moments of recognition.

Inspired by the legacy of Don Julio Gonz谩lez, the experience celebrated the discipline, passion, and years of dedication that often exist behind extraordinary success. It became a moment not just of recognition, but of reflection.

This year, Don Julio sponsored three of the evening鈥檚 most prestigious categories: Best Actor, Best Supporting Actress, and Best Film of the Year,  transforming each win into a larger celebration of storytelling, artistry and devotion to craft.

Hosted by Uti Nwachukwu, The Don鈥檚 Table became one of the defining highlights of the evening as winners shared intimate conversations about their journeys, the discipline behind their work and the evolving future of African cinema.

The Best Actor award went to Uzor Arukwe, popularly known as 鈥淥dogwu,鈥� whose years of consistency and memorable performances continue to establish him as one of Nollywood鈥檚 most respected talents. The announcement was met with excitement across the room, with many describing the recognition as long deserved.

For Best Supporting Actress, Linda Ejiofor-Suleiman was welcomed to The Don鈥檚 Table in recognition of her range, resilience, and ability to embody every character with authenticity and emotional depth.

The Best Film of the Year recognition went to My Father鈥檚 Shadow, with Funmbi Ogunbawo and Wale Davis recognised for a project that reflects the growing global potential of African storytelling and craftsmanship,  values that naturally align with Don Julio鈥檚 philosophy.

To commemorate the moment, each winner received a specially engraved bottle of Don Julio 1942. More than a luxury gift, the engraved bottles symbolised permanence, recognition, and the celebration of earned excellence, reflecting the same level of intentionality and craftsmanship that defines the tequila itself.

Another memorable highlight of the evening came during the Don Julio 1942 toast moment, where Bovi Ugboma led guests in a celebratory toast to creativity, storytelling, and the people shaping the future of African entertainment.

Don Julio鈥檚 presence also extended to the AMVCA red carpet through its Fashion Icon of the Night, Uche Montana, who made a striking appearance in a custom design by Tubo Bereni. Inspired by the rise of a phoenix, the look symbolised transformation, strength, reinvention, and ambition. The themes mirrored both the spirit of the AMVCA and Don Julio鈥檚 philosophy around evolution and earned success.

The Best Supporting Actress recognition was presented by Ose Head, Head of Media & Content alongside Uche Montana, further reinforcing Don Julio鈥檚 commitment to celebrating creativity and cultural excellence across multiple touchpoints.

What made Don Julio鈥檚 presence at the AMVCA stand out was its ability to move beyond traditional sponsorship into something more culturally meaningful. The brand did not simply attach itself to a prestigious event; it created moments that honoured the people behind the stories, recognised the years of unseen dedication required to achieve excellence, and celebrated the craftsmanship that continues to shape African entertainment.

As African cinema, fashion, and storytelling continue to gain global recognition, Don Julio remains committed to celebrating the creators, visionaries, and storytellers pushing culture forward across the continent.

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Despite the laws that have been passed, growing public interest in taking mental health seriously, and renewed government attention, mental healthcare is still mostly inaccessible to the average citizen in 2026.

In this piece, we鈥檒l probe why that is and what it means for the average Nigerian. 

Mental health in Nigeria

of Nigerians are living with some form of mental illness. That is roughly one in four people. Depression and anxiety are among the most common, but the spectrum runs wider than most people acknowledge, from burnout to stress psychosis and PTSD.

The burden falls unevenly across gender lines. Depression and anxiety disorders occur at as in men. Postpartum depression is common but wildly underdiagnosed, particularly compared to conditions that more visibly affect men. Sexual violence, which is prevalent in Nigeria and disproportionately targets women, frequently leads to PTSD; women are twice as likely as men to develop the condition. Yet because many of these experiences go unreported and the healthcare system offers little support, many people are left suffering in silence.

Substance use is another dimension of the crisis that rarely gets named alongside mental health conversations, even though the two are deeply connected. Many Nigerians turn to substances as coping mechanisms when emotional support is unavailable, unaffordable, or stigmatised. Burnout, driven by economic pressure and unstable infrastructure, seems to have become a .

Do something with these laws

In January 2023, President Muhammadu Buhari the National Mental Health Act of 2021 into law, marking a historic moment that replaced the 1916 Lunacy Act that governed mental health policy in Nigeria for over a century. The new law was established to protect the rights of people with mental health conditions, prioritise voluntary treatment, and signal a shift toward a modern, humane approach to mental healthcare.

As is common with the implementation and adoption of laws in Nigeria, only two states,聽 Lagos and Ekiti, have the act as of May 2026, but key provisions, like the establishment of a dedicated Mental Health Department, remain unimplemented. The Federal Ministry of Health (FMoH) has also not provided any updates on when this department will be created, and there is no mention of it on its website.

One doctor to one million patients 

According to the Association of Psychiatrists in Nigeria (APN), as of 2024, Nigeria had fewer than serving a population of over 200 million. The psychiatrist-to-patient ratio is 1 psychiatrist per 10,000 patients. Yet, with Nigeria’s at 240 million, the ratio currently stands at 1 psychiatrist to 960,000 patients. 

This shortage is a result of decades of underfunding medical education and a near-total absence of strong mental health infrastructure in both urban and rural areas of the country. Public like the Yaba Psychiatric Hospital in Lagos, Aro Neuropsychiatric Hospital in Abeokuta, and the Federal Neuropsychiatric Hospital in Kaduna, are designed to handle the most severe cases, and the numbers show they are already overwhelmed.

If you find a therapist, can you afford them? 

Private therapy sessions in cities like Lagos and Abuja cost 鈧�15,000 to 鈧�50,000 per session, with each lasting about 45 to 60 minutes. Online therapy services offer more competitive pricing, typically ranging from 鈧�8,000 to 鈧�25,000 per session, and some offer subscription tiers.

Nigeria’s minimum wage is 鈧�70,000 per month, and a single therapy session could consume half of that. For most Nigerians, particularly those outside Lagos and Abuja, or those in the informal economy,  consistent quality therapy is simply not a financial possibility.

Health insurance does not close the gap. The does not explicitly cover mental health treatments in its standard benefits package. Mental healthcare is almost entirely an out-of-pocket expense for Nigerians who can afford it. 

All talk but no workings 

There are signs that the federal government understands the scale of the problem and its importance, even if action has been slow.

The Chairman of the NHIA, Senator Ibrahim Yahaya Oloriegbe, for a dedicated 鈧�4 billion mental health fund in Nigeria’s 2026 budget, specifically to improve access for vulnerable groups amid rising rates of substance abuse and suicide.

But attempted suicide is still a crime in Nigeria. A person who survives a suicide attempt can, by law, be imprisoned for up to one year. 

The federal government in September 2025 that it intends to decriminalise attempted suicide via amendments to the Mental Health Act, which, when approved, will be set for presentation as an Executive Bill. That process was supposed to be by December 2025, but it has not been.

鈥淭hey will say I鈥檓 possessed鈥�

Policy gaps and funding shortfalls are measurable, but you see stigma and social conditioning? Those are harder to quantify, but still very much real.

A 2020 conducted by professors at Northwestern University, Chicago, on mental health stigma among university healthcare students in Nigeria, suggests that stigma and label avoidance are significant barriers to mental healthcare in Nigeria. Seeking therapy is still widely read, in many Nigerian communities, as an admission that something is fundamentally broken about you. 

Nigeria, being a deeply religious country, also contributes to this floating stigma. Religious frequently interpret mental illnesses through a spiritual lens, labelling them as demonic attacks, curses, or punishment for sin, which in turn leads to a prioritisation of prayer and deliverance over medical care. 

The same Northwestern study corroborates this claim. Among the respondents, 92.68% stated they would pray sometimes when feeling depressed or anxious. Nearly a quarter (24.69%) of respondents say mental illness is sometimes caused by sin, and 21.95% believe evil spirits sometimes cause mental illness.

Perhaps this tells what happens when a healthcare system fails so thoroughly that spiritual intervention becomes the only, seemingly viable, accessible alternative.

Are you listening?

The 鈧�4 billion fund, if approved and properly administered, would be meaningful. The decriminalisation of suicide attempts, when it finally happens, will matter. Still, neither of those things will mean much to someone who cannot afford a single session, cannot find a provider in their state, or cannot tell their family they are struggling without risking their reputation.

The conversation about mental health in Nigeria has never been louder. The question for 2026 is whether the government is listening well enough to act and fast enough for the people who cannot afford to wait.

Justin* (29) has spent most of his dating life chasing women older than him. What started from a childhood crush slowly turned into a pattern that shaped his love life. But after one relationship left him stretched thin and heartbroken, he鈥檚 started to question if his type has been working against him all along.聽

What鈥檚 your current relationship status, and how do you feel about it?

I鈥檓 single, and my preferences have a lot to do with that. I鈥檓 drawn to older women, but it hasn鈥檛 really worked out for me. I鈥檓 trying to change because I know it鈥檚 affected my dating life.

I see. When did you first realise this preference?

When I was 11, I developed a crush on a 19-year-old family friend. She lived close by, and my mum would sometimes ask her to look after my siblings and me. It was obvious she preferred me to the rest of them. She always complimented my looks, and I confided in her more than anyone else.

Nothing inappropriate happened, but we were very close, and I held on to those feelings for a long time. Even after she left for university, we stayed in touch. We鈥檇 call each other, and she鈥檇 sometimes buy me gifts. I was too scared to tell her how I felt. We eventually drifted apart and that hurt, but I moved on.

At 15, I dated someone my age, but it didn鈥檛 last a term. In SS1, I got involved with a girl in SS3, and that was when I began suspecting I had a preference for older women.

Did you try to date within your age group in university?

I did, but it didn鈥檛 work out. I met Samiat* through my roommate, who had gone to the same secondary school as her. We became friends because she visited him often, and over time, I realised I liked her. We started dating in 2017.

It was a good relationship at first, but she relied on me too much. She expected me to think for her, even academically. She constantly  asked for help with assignments and projects, and it drained me.

The effort wasn鈥檛 mutual. She didn鈥檛 show the same interest in my life or work. At some point, it stopped feeling like a relationship and started feeling one-sided. There wasn鈥檛 a defining moment that led to our breakup. I just got tired and ended things in our final year.

Did you meet anyone else after school?

Not immediately. I had a few talking stages, but even during NYSC, I found myself crushing on an older woman at work. I didn鈥檛 act on it. I stayed single until I met Esther* in 2022.

Tell me about Esther

We met at a club and danced together. There was instant chemistry. We talked on Instagram for weeks before exchanging numbers.

I was 25; she was 30. She hesitated  when I told her my age, and I think that affected how seriously she took me. But I kept showing up for her. I was attentive and thoughtful until she eventually agreed to date me. 

Nice. How did that relationship go?

It was good in many ways. We had a strong connection, but she kept parts of her life away from me. I never met her friends, and she was very private about her past.

It made me feel like she didn鈥檛 take me seriously. I kept trying to prove my maturity and that created pressure. There was also the financial gap. She was more established, while I was still struggling to land a good job after service. She never complained and sometimes helped, but I felt ashamed.

When she relocated to another state later that year, things got worse. I started to feel secondary. When I asked why she鈥檇 become distant, she said that I鈥檇 understand life better when I got older and climbed the ladder. Those words triggered me. We had a big argument , and it led to our breakup.

She apologised later, and we reconnected briefly, but it was the same pattern. After a few months, I walked away and blocked her.

That must have been hard.

It was. But a few months later, I met Ngozi* at a pop-up event. She sold beaded bags, and since I鈥檓 also creative, we bonded easily. We exchanged numbers, but she avoided me at first because she鈥檇 initially told me she was 30. She later admitted she was actually three years older.

Hmmm

I already knew she was older than me, so it didn鈥檛 matter. What I liked about her was how open she was. She鈥檇 just come out of a long-term relationship, so we stayed friends for a few months before dating.

But that relationship came with its own challenges. She needed constant reassurance and was very conscious of her age. The biggest issue, though, was that she wanted marriage soon.

Was that something you had remotely considered ?

No. I was 26 and barely surviving on a 200k salary. I didn鈥檛 feel ready, even though I might have tried for her. I just couldn鈥檛 give her a clear timeline.

The relationship became financially  draining. I tried to meet her expectations by giving gifts and showing up, even when it stretched me. I didn鈥檛 want to feel babied, so I pushed myself. But deep down, I couldn鈥檛 imagine getting married in that state, and I knew my parents wouldn鈥檛 approve.

I kept stalling. She had always said she wanted marriage by 35, but the breakup still shocked me.

In October last year, she met someone else through church who was ready. I didn鈥檛 understand how she could walk away from a two-year relationship  for someone new, but she was certain, so she ended our relationship.

I鈥檓 sorry. How did that make you feel?

I felt cheated. I was a wreck for the rest of the year. She eventually married him in January this year, and it鈥檚 been hard to process.

The past few months have been tough. I keep wondering if I set myself up for heartbreak. I can鈥檛 even fully blame her because I wasn’t at the stage she needed.

Now, I鈥檓 starting to accept what happened. Going forward, I鈥檒l be more cautious. It would take someone who genuinely wants me and understands me for me to try again with an older woman.

That sounds fair. How have your experiences shaped your idea of love and relationships?

I鈥檝e learnt not to pressure myself to meet someone else鈥檚 expectations, especially financially. I stretched myself too much in that last relationship. I almost went into fraud because of how desperate I was to meet her demands.

I鈥檝e also realised how important timing is. Being at the same stage of life matters more than I thought.

Finally, how are the streets treating you? Rate it on a scale of 1 to 10.

4/10. I don鈥檛 enjoy being single. Maybe it鈥檚 because I鈥檓 still hurting from my last relationship. I hope to feel better about it once I get to a better place emotionally.

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Now, with one of those friends鈥� milestone birthday around the corner, Divine has a choice to make: confront them, or disappear without a word. 

This is Divine鈥檚 explanation as told to Betty:

I met Temi* on my first day in JSS 1. We were assigned seats next to each other and became fast friends. Soon, our friend group grew to include two other girls in our set, Deola* and Esther*. We became a popular clique in school, and I saw all of them as my best friends.

All this changed after a mid-term break in SS1. When we resumed, all three of the girls refused to speak to me. I kept asking whether I had done something to offend them, but I was met with silence. Only Temi wrote me a note explaining things. She told me that Esther had convinced the group that I wasn鈥檛 cool enough to be friends with them now that we were seniors.

I felt hurt and confused. I kept thinking about what could have triggered their decision to cut me out. I couldn鈥檛 pinpoint anything, but I couldn鈥檛 help but think about how they had been showing hints of their betrayal a while before taking action. I remembered how they鈥檇 have secret phone calls without me, or how they鈥檇 suddenly change the topic once I walked up to them during break time.

Alone, I withdrew into myself for over a week before they all came to apologise.

They never gave me any concrete reason for how they acted, but I 鈥榝orgave鈥� them because I was desperate for things to return to normal. Still, I never fully trusted them again. This event affected me more than I鈥檇 like to admit. I became a serial ghoster after that. Once I get a whiff of conflict or stress within a relationship, I vanish. Temi and I went to the same university, so we remained close. However, we drifted apart from the other girls who went to other universities.

Temi is turning 30 this June and has decided she wants a big dinner with her closest friends. When she added me to the group, I saw Esther and Deola there. The four of us hopped on a video call and reconnected properly. We decided to revive our friend group since we all live in the same city again. Soon, though, I noticed them moving weird. My work takes me to many events that have celebrities. Usually, I would take Temi with me whenever I had a plus one. Now that we鈥檙e four again, I guess Esther and Deola felt a bit left out since I never offered to take either of them.

In March, I went to another event with Temi. While there, she left her phone with me to go to the bathroom. While I was holding on to it, a bunch of WhatsApp notifications came in from a group chat called 鈥淩eal Sistas -1鈥�. I was curious because the new group chat we鈥檇 created was called 鈥淪istas.鈥�

The messages were from Esther and Deola, and they were making insulting comments about me. Saying that I thought I was better than them. It was as if I got teleported back to SS1, standing on the edge of a group of people I thought were my friends. I read what I could from the notification bubbles and put the phone down. I didn鈥檛 tell Temi what I saw, and I didn鈥檛 change my behaviour towards any of them. The fact that they鈥檙e comfortable saying those things to Temi probably means she鈥檚 saying her own rubbish too.

I can鈥檛 be sure. What I know is that I鈥檓 not dealing with their rubbish at my big age. I plan to ghost them all right before Temi鈥檚 birthday. I鈥檝e been counting down since I read those messages. I will not be there, and I won鈥檛 be telling anyone why. I told my older sister about what鈥檚 been happening, and she thinks I should talk to Temi since we鈥檝e been the closest in the group. She doesn鈥檛 think ghosting is a fair way to treat a friendship that lasted that many years.

I disagree.

I don鈥檛 have anything to say to people who鈥檝e been gossiping behind my back. The day before the dinner, I鈥檓 blocking everyone of them without a word. Thank God I haven鈥檛 paid my share of the contributions.

I know it will probably mar her day, but I don鈥檛 feel bad at all. She has a group chat she can vent to; she鈥檒l be okay.

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The message from Dammy Twitch read, 鈥淎re you ready for your first feature?鈥� If you know Justin UG from his skits, this moment might surprise you. But it really shouldn’t. Those skits made rounds in secondary school group chats and still live rent-free in people’s heads, but they were never the whole story. We sat with him to talk about , Nollywood legends and love.

You started out making skits. When did you know you wanted to be in actual films?

I think this was during the time of skits like , when everybody was just starting out. Even then, people doing that weren’t necessarily thinking, oh my God, I want to act. It was just a new thing everybody really liked. But then I ended up getting a job as a photo and video journalist for a company. They鈥檙e now called . That’s where I learnt how to use Premiere Pro, a video editing software.

I liked the process of editing, I also liked the process of shooting, but I liked being in front of the camera more. This was in 2016, and I was like, I think I genuinely want to act. So when I got to the U.S., I decided that everything I do onwards will be to lead me to that position.

How did the events of you starring in Call of My Life come to be? Can you share the story?

I love telling people this story because I think it was, first of all, God. I had just released a short video on grief. The only reason I released it was because I wanted to show people that, behind all these skits, I take acting very seriously. That was me showing a different side of myself. A week after I posted the video, I started feeling very weird. Like nothing was really clicking. I went to sleep and woke up the next day to two messages. One was from a well-known producer.

The other was from Dammy Twitch, who was the director. I saw the preview of Dammy Twitch’s message, and he said, “Are you ready for your first feature?” I’m like, bro, what is going on? I’m also receiving a message from one of my favourite directors at the same time? Eventually, Dammy told me Blessing Uzzi was going to reach out. I did the audition, and I got the role. That was my first time ever doing a formal audition. She could tell that I was scared, but she was kind enough to guide me and made sure that I really understood what I was getting into.

What was it about the character of Ezekiel that made you say yes?

The first thing was the story. I have always told myself that if I was ever going to do my first role, the story had to make sense. I don’t want people watching it to think, “What is going on here?鈥� So the story being genuinely interesting was big for me. And then when they told me my character, I was like, okay. It was a very, very important supporting role. It鈥檚 one of those roles where when it’s your time to shine, you better shine. I was very grateful for that, honestly.

Comedy skits and feature films are different veins in entertainment. What surprised you the most about the process of making a full film?

Seeing every single moving part come together to make something successful. I realised there are so many things involved in making a movie, so many people involved. This project would literally fail if just one of those pieces goes missing.

Also experiencing how everybody comes together to make something work by every means possible. Even when there鈥檚 no light and Nigeria is happening. Everybody is still very much active and trying to make sure the project is successful. With skits, it’s just me and my camera. With movies, you need proper planning. The amount of planning that goes into making a film genuinely surprised me.

What was the most fun scene you shot, and what was the hardest part of it for you?

I enjoyed shooting every single scene, I really did. But there was a scene with where we both had to share the screen for the first time, just the two of us, nobody else. And I was nervous because Beverly is somebody.

You know her from Wedding Party; she’s been on TV. I’m supposed to be in a scene alone with this person. But we actually did it, and I really, really loved that scene. When the movie is out, you’ll know exactly which scene I’m talking about.

You’re sharing the screen with Nkem Owoh and Patience Ozokwor. What’s that like as a younger actor?

Who would have thought that for my first-ever feature film, I would be with legends? You cannot talk about Nollywood without mentioning these people. I’m just genuinely grateful and fulfilled to even be in the same project as them. It’s crazy. I’m speechless. They didn’t even tell me until the first day on set. They said, “Oh yeah, and are in this鈥�. I said, 鈥淲hat?鈥� It was amazing.

Broda Shaggi is also in the film. Was it beneficial to have someone from the same background as you?

Not necessarily, because I didn’t know was in it until the day before we were supposed to shoot our scene together. He played the role of our boss in the movie. Before then, I was asking who our boss was, and they said, Broda Shaggi. I said that’s crazy. That was actually my first time meeting him. It was a really great time.

But I wouldn鈥檛 say it was beneficial. It was just really nice to see familiar faces. Even if someone has done just one movie, I’m excited to work with them. So it wasn’t about the skit background; it was about being around people who have done what I want to do.

For someone doing their first feature, the director matters a lot. What made Dammy Twitch the right director for this?

A bad director could literally spoil a good script. I’ve known Dammy Twitch for a long time, and we’re kind of friends. So when I got to Nigeria and went to his office, I told him straight, Dammy, it’s my first feature. I’m not about to flop on this movie. I don’t want a situation where you tell me this is good, we can manage, because I don’t want to be managed. Tell me when something isn’t right.

The way he communicates is amazing. After he’s watched a take, you’ll just see him walk toward you, and you already know he’s about to tell you something important. He’d pull you to the side and say, okay, I think you could do this better, show me more. And then there’s the Shakespeare moment from the .

That wasn’t in the script. Dammy called me to the side after a scene and said, “Show me something.鈥� We shot it. Immediately after, he said that was exactly what he needed. He’s such a good director.

Call of My Life seems to be a story about healing from heartbreak and finding love again. Is that personal to you?

One thousand percent. It’s a very relatable story and it’s also very personal. Lowkey, let me not cast everybody, but yes. It’s personal. We were all talking about our love lives at some point on set and it was so beautiful. It’s a story that everybody would be able to relate to.

Do you believe in the kind of love this film is selling?

I’m a lover boy, so yes. I believe it’s very possible. It starts off with a love where you’re giving more than you鈥檙e receiving. Then it transpires into this whole new phase where you’re doubting a new thing because of what you’ve experienced from your old thing. Just because the emotions are new and pure.

But when you eventually let it blossom, it’s just beautiful. It’s a totally different experience. It’s not just one type of love shown throughout, there are different stages. And I believe all of that is possible in real life. How it happened exactly, maybe not. But the feelings? Very possible.

Looking at where you started and where you are now, where do you see acting taking you?

First, I want people to see this project, because I think it would sink into people’s heads that, okay, this guy is really serious. That’s something I really tried with every scene I was in. After that, I’m going to start doing more auditions and taking acting classes, just to see what’s next.

I’m very open to working with different producers, as far as the story is great and makes sense. But I’m not in a rush to get into just anything. What’s for me will be for me and what’s not, I shouldn’t stress myself about it. I’m just going to keep auditioning, keep learning, and see how God leads.

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Anchored by filmmaker and industry powerhouse Funke Akindele, the masterclass featured a lineup of influential speakers, including Wangi Mba-Uzoukwu, Mojisola Hunponu-Wusu, Tara Durotoye, Tobi Ayeni, and Financial Jennifer, alongside panellists such as Toke Makinwa, Niniola Apata, Gbemi Olateru-Olagbegi, KieKie, Rima Tahini, Bisola Aiyeola, and Jade Osiberu. Conversations centred on creative entrepreneurship, brand building, content monetisation, and navigating sustainable careers in the creative industry.

Beyond the discussions, the event featured a series of activations designed to spotlight and reward emerging talent. A monologue competition gave participants the opportunity to earn roles in Funke Akindele鈥檚 upcoming blockbuster, while select attendees received scholarships to a music academy and cash prizes through a raffle draw.

The experience was further elevated by live performances, opening with a powerful national anthem rendition by legendary vocalist Yinka Davis, featuring performances from Vocal Monix, and closing with a performance by singer-songwriter Fave.

Built around the theme 鈥淕iving Today, Gaining Tomorrow,鈥� the event positioned itself as a platform for intentional growth and access. In her address, Funke Akindele emphasised that 鈥渨hat you invest in yourself today will shape who you become tomorrow,鈥� encouraging participants to engage actively and apply what they learned.

Since its inception, The Creative Blueprint has continued to bridge the gap between potential and opportunity, building a growing community of creatives and industry leaders committed to advancing women in the creative economy.

Tiger Beer is taking over Easter Weekend with Phyno on April 5th with The Phyno Experience at the International Conference Centre (ICC), and you don’t want to miss it. 

Let鈥檚 be honest, Easter in the East is never quiet. From family gatherings to street parties and church celebrations, the East marks Easter with loud, roaring parties and communal gatherings. This year, Tiger Beer is tapping into this spirit for its Big Fiesta celebrations by hosting the biggest concert of the season, The Phyno Experience.

A perfect embodiment of the Eastern vibe, Phyno鈥檚 biggest hits are a mix of church and street anthems. So before you step out for Tiger Beer’s The Phyno Experience, here are 5 Phyno songs to get you fully in the mood.

1. Fada fada (Ghetto gospel)

If you grew up in the East, you already know this is not just a song; it鈥檚 a movement. From speakers to church Thanksgiving services, Fada Fada carries that rare energy that blends gratitude with groove. It鈥檚 the kind of track that makes you dance and reflect at the same time, the perfect way to start your Easter weekend. 

2. Alobam

No introduction needed, this song is the peak embodiment of Eastern pride and energy. Featured on Phyno鈥檚 debut album 鈥淣o Guts No Glory鈥�, this song became a movement, and you couldn鈥檛 step out in Enugu in 2014 without hearing it. It turns every listening experience into a mini party and is the perfect hype anthem to get you ready for the Phyno Experience.

3. Agu

This song, which translates to “Tiger/Leopard” in English, will have you feeling untouchable and energised with its chorus that draws from the famous Igbo saying 鈥淥ne does not argue with the tiger鈥�. With a cold bottle of Tiger Beer in your hand and this song coming through your speakers, you can already feel the rising anticipation for The Phyno Experience on Sunday.

4. Uzo Ano

For those who like a more soulful vibe to ease them into the mood, this is the song for you. This fresh collaboration between Phyno and the self-described 鈥淕od in the East鈥�, Flavour, is a prayer and a testimony wrapped in one. This track carries both cultural weight and emotional depth. It鈥檚 the kind of song that grounds you before the energy rises, setting the tone for everything Sunday night is about to become.

5. Grateful

This is what you will be singing when the party is over, because Tiger Beer and Phyno would have uncaged your inner tiger鈥攜our most ferocious, powerful self. A song rooted in gratitude and confidence, it reflects that moment after the party, when you take it all in and feel proud of your experience. After a night like The Phyno Experience, you will have a lot to be grateful for.

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